Let the Healing begin

When I was in treatment for substance abuse in 2016, I started the healing process of battling with my identity by writing. After a recent breakup, I realize that, even though I am opening up to others about the pain I am in, I am not truly getting every aspect of my experience out without feeling interrupted from other opinions or worst my own thoughts. Now that I am waiting for my flight back to Grand Rapids, I am now going to challenge myself to heal.

It happened so soon, I went from feeling on top of the world, thinking that I am experiencing the normal discomforts of being in a relationship to jumping a couple of twenty-four hours of confusion, obsession, self-centeredness, self-hatred, self-pity, and resentment. This is my first love, my first love living as a clean and sober gay man. Transparent to my family, exploring my own faith walk with God/ Jesus Christ, and to have the feeling of losing this man that I feel that God has put in my path is a tough pill (no pun intended) to swallow. I've let myself, love, I've let myself be in a state of existence that I never knew was possible. I would do anything to get a "do over" but one thing I've learned by being sober is that you can't right the wrongs of your past without healing first.

I would consider myself a golden boy, I've escaped the grip of addiction relatively unscathed. I have been granted the second chance that most people dream of. Having lost this connection with this person is something that I never thought would happen. OR, maybe I knew it was possible. I have lived a life where I would push life to the limit, and I did this here. I played roulette and lost.

One thing I have learned while being clean and sober, that my addiction was more than the act of living. It was a place that I hid to escape my truth. Was I doing this in this relationship? Was I so wrapped up in myself that I started to focus on my own needs and not the person I cared about? Who knows, but I do know that I hope to continue to work through it.

One thing I know that is true, God has brought me thus far, and he will never leave me nor forsake me. Let the healing begin!